Catching up

So I haven’t written in awhile because exams have been taking up my life, but I am writing to you now to say that I am officially done with my undergrad program in Psychology and will be graduating this weekend!

Everything that has happened in my life has brought me to this point (which I honestly never thought that I would get to). In just a few short weeks, I will be holding my baby boy in my arms and I couldn’t feel greater than this. It’s like my life is at an all time high even though a few months ago I thought it was over. I couldn’t go on to play professional soccer, or move to Greece, or work my dream job- but all of that is just on hold.

My mom and grandparents will be up this weekend and I’m so excited to see them. Family is always good for my soul.

Then I have a 16 hour car ride back home to Canada, give or take how many pee breaks I have to take throughout and then it’s time to start my summer! First order of business is to get Leo’s stuff set up for when he arrives. I plan on panting and getting his crib set up asap so that I can just get it over with and focus on other things. I will be working until he is born for my mom all summer so I can save up money to spoil my little man.

Let me tell you something, being 30 weeks pregnant is NOT fun. I’m always hot, I can’t bend over to tie my shoes anymore, sleeping has become the worlds most hardest task and eating frequently has been a necessity- let alone all the anxiousness I’ve been having for him to arrive.

It’s an amazing thing to feel him getting stronger and stronger in my womb with all his kicks and turns. The other day we had a moment where his hand was firmly pressed up against my tummy and I felt as if I was holding his hand. I could only sit there completely still and smile. It was perfect. Moments like those are the ones that make me excited to be a mommy to such a precious little boy I know he will be.

On June 12th I’ll be participating in a fashion show in a maternity line and I’m very nervous. I can barely walk to class let alone walk down a catwalk in front of a bunch of people! Pray for me! LOL

I’ll be starting to write more now that exams are over and I have much more free time so keep updated with the last little bit of my pregnancy! #10weekstogo

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Mocktails for Mommies

If you are like me, you think of summers as living pool side with a drink in your hand enjoying the warmth on your skin.

It’s true, for some mamas summer marks the beginning of cocktail season. But what about our pregnant and breastfeeding sisters? Are we really going to ask you to reach for yet another glass of water, when so many others are sipping beautiful and refreshing drinks? No. Way. You can bet your baby bump there are better options out there when you’re in the mood to sip.

Since summer is right around the corner, grab your glasses and enjoy some of these delicious mocktails!

The Meg Ryan: A Bright & Bubbly Blended Berry Drink

Yields: 1 drink

1 cup berries (whatever is in season)

1 tsp lemon juice

2 tbsp honey

1 cup soda water

“Add berries, lemon juice and honey to a blender and combine until smooth. Add soda water and pulse until combined. If using frozen berries, you may add ingredients all at once, but you might need to add a dash of soda water at the end to bubble things back up to our tongue-tingling standards.”

More Mocktails here!

Bottoms up mamas. Remember to stay hydrated this summer!

My open letter to you, mother of an unplanned pregnancy

Many women have stood in line at a drugstore holding a pregnancy test, whether for a friend or a “friend.” It doesn’t matter who is peeing on that thing, if a pregnancy test is being purchased then there’s palpable panic in the air.

I was 21 when my stick turned positive. Instantly positive. If that’s ever happened to you — if you ever stared at the bathroom floor with a pulsing surge of anxiety and impatience, waiting for your sentencing via urine-soaked plastic, and you saw a POSITIVE verdict — then just thinking about that moment can give you flashback feelings. You can go right back to that moment when your stomach dropped to your ankles and nothing in life made sense. To that next morning (and the next 30 or 40 after that) when the realization washed over you like a riptide, once again: “It wasn’t a dream. I really am pregnant.”

THAT feeling. I can’t find a word for that particular cocktail of emotions, but let’s just call it terrible. Terrible and scary.

I wish I knew then what I knew now but here are my thoughts on unplanned pregnancy..

1. You’re not alone.

According to the Guttmacher Institute, more than half of American women will have an unintended pregnancy by age 45 (no, unplanned pregnancies don’t just happen to teenagers) and 3 in 10 will have had an abortion. When you take that statistic away from a black-and-white pie chart and into real life, that’s a lot of women who know the unique pain and heartache you’re feeling.

2. No one can tell you what to do next.

People will, of course, but NO ONE can tell you how having or not having this child will affect your life. No amount of Googling can predict your future. But if you can cut through the noise in your head and in your ears, you probably already know what you want to do.

3. It’s okay to be scared.

If you weren’t scared in this particular situation, you wouldn’t be human. I don’t care if you’re 21 or 31 or 41, an unplanned pregnancy is a massive, scary jolt.

It’s also okay to be angry or deeply sad — whether you’re mourning a baby-that-could-have-been, or mourning a vision of your life that you have to let go of. Whatever you’re feeling, it’s okay to feel that. If you don’t allow yourself to feel those emotions fully, they’ll eat you alive.

4. Just because something is hard or scary, doesn’t mean it’s bad.

We have a way of judging things based on how they feel in the moment, but that’s not how life works. If you’ve ever had a devastating life turn that led to an amazing opportunity, you know what I mean.

Not every woman feels enchantment during pregnancy. Not every woman immediately bonds with her fetus or baby. These things can take time, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

5. It’s really important to have a support system.

A support system can be built — it can be virtual, even — but it’ll be a key factor in moving forward. And if you’re reading this because your daughter or friend is unexpectedly pregnant, know that your support means everything in her being successful and happy, no matter what she decides.

6. Fear and anger are bad decision-making tools.

Calm down and think clearly before you make this kind of decision. Our emotions are real and okay, but they can cloud our thinking. What’s the motivation behind your choice? Is it LOVE or FEAR?

7. You don’t need as much as you think.

We’re programmed to think that there’s some imaginary checklist to complete before having a baby — we need a certain amount of money, a certain amount of career advancement, a certain type of stroller. But the truth is, you don’t need as much as society claims you do. You’ll never feel 100% ready.

8. You are not a statistic.

It’s normal to feel shame, embarrassment, even disappointment in yourself. But the truth is, you are so much more than a statistic. You aren’t bound to a stereotype now, no matter what you hear on the news or around the holiday dinner table. Having an unplanned pregnancy doesn’t make you “stupid” or “slutty” or “irresponsible.” Maybe you used protection, or maybe it was a heat-of-the-moment mistake. It’s okay. This does not define you.

9. Your life isn’t over.

The only way your life will be over is if you believe that it already is.

10. No matter what you decide, you will be okay.

You will be happy and grateful and overwhelmed — that’s life, no matter what you decide. You will be okay. Just make sure that your decision is for you and your partner, not to please or conform to an ideal or standard.

Things I learned from being the first of my friends to get pregnant

I had heard stories about the prolonged length of time it can take to get pregnant but for me, it all happened so fast. I was suddenly acutely aware that I was alone in this pregnancy (none of my friends have kids) and so I questioned whether I’d be able to navigate the unknown. Suffice it to say, there have been some surprises along the way. Here are the things I learned from being the first of my friends to get pregnant.

Friends Become Family… When I first found out I was pregnant, my initial thought was that my friends were all going to ditch me. It’s not to say that we lead vastly different lifestyles. The first thing I asked them after telling them about the baby was if we would still be friends, only half joking. They not only assured me that they would, but were incredibly excited when I told them. My best friend even cried tears of joy. Those girlfriends who saw me through breakups and all night dance parties were all of a sudden now “aunts” to my future son.

Resourcefulness Has No Bounds… With no friends to lead by example, I’ve had to be resourceful in finding information on pregnancy and birth. In a sense, it’s been freeing because I am not being bombarded with unwarranted opinions and advice, and instead can seek out the information I’m specifically after.

Ordinary Days Feel Like Date Night…Even if it’s reheating leftovers to eat in front of the TV watching hours and hours of Dexter, I’ve come to savor the truth of our everyday lives. Before, I’d be itching to go out for drinks on a Saturday night, but these days I find immeasurable joy parking myself on the couch watching Rediculousness with my fur-baby.

You Will Feel Lonely at Times…It would be nice to join the happy hour with my girls, but I have to listen to my body when it tells me to stay home and rest. I wasn’t surprised about being tired all of the time, but I also wasn’t prepared for the loneliness that came with it (not by any fault of my friends I’ll add). It can be isolating to go through a huge life change before other people in your group do. In that vein, it’s also okay to tell your friends that you feel left out. The good ones will plan a night for you alcohol-free and just relax.

Suddenly I Want to Be a Kid Again…Part of it may be because I’m the first of my friends to be pregnant that I suddenly want to be a carefree kid again. Having this massive responsibility on the horizon makes me want to rewind time and savor in a moment when everyone was kind of doing the same thing. At 10, everyone was in soccer together. At 19, everyone was running through the bar circuit. Now that I’m 22 and finishing college, people are veering off into different places in their lives, which makes me crave the predictability of years past. Luckily, I’ll have my son to hold in a matter of weeks and I can’t wait!

Baby Shower fun!

Last weekend, my friends threw me a baby shower for my little boy and I couldn’t be more thankful! All of my friends were there celebrating this milestone in my life and it was perfect. Leo definitely got spoiled!

Thank you so much to all my friends that came!

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The Balance: Motherhood & Ambition

During my pregnancy, I have been thinking a lot about my lifelong dreams and what it truly takes to make a dream come true. There is a lot of hard work and sacrifice involved in pursuing a dream. It makes making difficult choices and willingness to believe in yourself even when no one else does.

As excited as I am about reaching this milestone, as a soon to be mommy to a baby boy, Leo, the unspoken question that often remains in my own head is this: Does pursuing my own dream make me selfish?

I don’t think I’m alone. Honestly, I think many of us struggle with that very dilemma. How do we balance our ambition as people with our responsibilities as mothers? When is it okay to push towards our own goals, and when should we hold back? When is it okay to be selfish, and when are we supposed to be selfless?

If only there were an easy answer.

The truth is that motherhood often comes with a strong dose of guilt. Although I haven’t experienced life with my son yet, I have heard of mothers feeling guilty when they don’t spend enough time with their kids. They feel guilty when they spend too much time with them and not enough time on things like housework or meal-planning. They feel guilty for working. They feel guilty for staying home. They feel guilty for being too strict. They feel guilty for giving in. And sometimes they feel guilty for pursuing our own dreams and ambitions because it might mean they can’t also meet standard of the perfect mom they’ve set out to be.

But here’s a little secret we all need to know: None of us are Superwoman.

The reality is that nobody can do it all, and the ones who pretend they can are probably lying. There simply aren’t enough hours in the day. We all get the same 24 hours, which means that no matter what we do in life, we will be faced with choices.

So how do we make sure we have chosen the right path? How do we know our priorities are in order? Ultimately, I think we are all a work in progress, subject to continual re-assessment and self-reflection, but there are a few things that have really helped me along the way.

Don’t compare.

It is easy to look at our friends and think their life is somehow better or more worthwhile. We watch our career-minded friends rushing off to work each day, looking all stylish and put together in their tailored suits and high heels. While they move right on up the corporate ladder we’re still wearing yesterday’s yoga pants.

Comparing your situation to someone elses’ situation serves no purpose except to make you crazy with self doubt, so just don’t do it. Your path is your path and no one elses.

Own your choices.

Every action has it’s own set of consequences, and every time we select one thing it means we are not choosing something else. So own it. If in your heart of hearts you believe that you have been called to a certain path, don’t waste time on regretting the things you can’t do. Understand that when you make a choice to pursue a dream, you are also making the decision to leave something else behind.

And that’s okay.

Because none of is can do it all, but we can make peace with the choices that we’ve made. And in the end, I think that’s good enough for me.

Kicking my own ass into gear

6 months pregnant is usually when people start to slow down in their routines and enjoy the rest of their pregnancy because when the belly starts to get larger and larger, you kinda just want to sit on your ass and indulge in some Ben & Jerry’s and wait out the last 4 or so months until your bundle of love arrives.

But not me…

Today, I ran 2.5 miles in 18 minutes and felt freakin’ GREAT. (Minus some extreme back pains) But it was nice to get out of the house and enjoy the spring/soon to be summer weather and run in shorts and a t-shirt, acting like I’m still in my fitness prime. For the last 6 months, I’ve been so exhausted that working out has become minimal. I didn’t think I would ever lose my thunder thighs but I am. My butt is slowly diminishing and my arms can barely carry a jug of milk to the cash register. Moral of the story, I am a weak little human trying to produce another human. It’s hard work! At first, I was playing soccer with the girls still and keeping up with exercise, until I hurt my back. After that, even doing the slightest bit of exercise caused me pain which was definitely hard on me emotionally. 4 years of hard training and keeping in shape is all going away (even though I know it won’t be for long).

I couldn’t imagine a day where I just stop working out in general or stop playing soccer. I’m going to be that 65 year old lady that still plays in the competitive league- no joke. I’m stubborn as hell and often don’t know when to stop but then again, what athlete does? During my soccer season, I actually had a fractured leg and still played through it for at least 4 games. Hardest thing I’ve ever done, but I still did it. Talk about stubborn, eh?

6 months pregnant and I’m even more exhausted than ever but today was the beginning of my workout journey. I want this labor to be as easy and quick as possible- CMON LEO!

I know I will miss being pregnant but I can’t wait until I can start actually working out and playing soccer again. Oh yeah, and being a soccer mom. (Sorry to my boyfriend who wants Leo to be a football player!!!)

How To: Daddy Duty

It’s quite common that men aren’t as excited as the woman for a newborn to arrive especially if the two or you aren’t married. Men always have so many questions but don’t want to ask them because they are afraid of what the answer may be. They keep to themselves and ponder how they are even capable of raising one of their own when they can’t even take care of themselves.

This article on the Pregnancy Corner explains what questions new dads ask and how to handle it..

Here are just a few examples of questions that run through a soon-to-be-father’s head.

Can I share my partner with someone else—even a baby?
Will I love (or even like) the baby?
Will I know how to raise a child?
Do I really want to go through with this?
Does fatherhood mean I can’t have fun anymore?
What if my baby daughter grows up and has to deal with teenage boys who act like I did as a kid?
Can I be certain that this is my child?
Do I have or can I make enough money to afford a family?
Will I break the baby?
Will I get sick and pass out in the delivery room?

These questions are all normal. Some may deserve more attention or rumination than others, but don’t be alarmed if these questions enter your head. When they do, give them thoughtful consideration, and talk things through with a friend, family member, a specialist or your significant other. You can also participate in online forums or read books, such as Kelly’s Idiot Guide, which enable to you deal with these concerns and thoughts in a beneficial way.

Traveling while preggers?

Whether you’re visiting family, taking a vacation or jetting off to a work conference, traveling while pregnant shouldn’t be taken lightly. First off, make sure you get the green light from your doctor. During your first trimester, you might be dealing with morning sickness (like I did), extreme sleepiness and a slew of other fun hormonal side effects. Nearing the end of your pregnancy, you’ll want to avoid sitting on your ass for long periods or putting unnecessary pressure on your back. Traveling during the third trimester isn’t recommended for health reasons and for logistics like, what if you went into labor?! There are few things you can do to make sure traveling is as breezy as possible.

By land: If you’re in the car, you have the opportunity to adjust the timing of your pit stops to accommodate your squished bladder and swelling feet. Give yourself enough time to stretch your legs and move around.

Make it easier: Recline the seat and add a rolled towel or blanket behind your lower back. You can also kick your feet up to reduce the swelling. Be sure to wear your seatbelt properly with both the lap and chest straps in place. You can also move the rolled towel under your tailbone. Stop at least every three hours to stretch and walk around.

By air: Airline seats were not made for the comfort of pregnant women, let’s face it. Expect narrow seats and aisles. Most airlines will not allow passengers past 36 weeks gestation to fly anyways. The ideal period according to doctors is between 14 and 28 weeks.

Make it easier: If you can book an aisle seat, that would be ideal. You can get up easily and move to stretch your legs. Bring plenty of snacks, like apples, nuts, a sandwich, and avoid any gas-producing foods like beans and dark greens. Have water on hand to stay hydrated, something that’s often not thought of when traveling. If you have to book a layover, give yourself between 90 minutes and three hours to assure you don’t need to awkwardly sprint or penguin wobble to your next gate in case of a delay and so that you have time to stand, stretch, move, rehydrate and refuel.

Take it easy. You’re going to experience fatigue more than usual and your body doesn’t really have a comfortable position.. EVER. If you’re traveling alone, take plenty of breaks and expect the travel to take longer than it would with the non-pregnant you. It’s OK! If you have a traveling companion, make sure they’re supporting your breaks and understanding what it is you need. Most people aren’t mind readers, so communicate with them as best you can. Finally, if you really don’t need to travel, just Skype with loved ones or Skype into your work meeting. Your health and baby are your priority now.

Time to register!

If you plan on having a baby shower, having the perfect baby registry for what you want for your little one is key.

Even though it’s for your friends and family that think they know you well, they usually don’t. Especially you, if you are a first time mom you may not even know what you want for your little one but now is the time to browse and think about what you really want.

For myself, I’ve always wanted one of those baby carriers that you can attach your baby to you like a kangaroo. Those things seem pretty convenient. I also really wanted a 3 wheel stroller so I can go running with my baby boy which a lot of moms are getting lately. But after looking at 3 different websites, I realized that there are so many things that you need to get for you and your newborn- it’s crazy!

Having a checklist is something that you should create for yourself as well and if you aren’t sure what to get, there are many online checklists that you can skim through yourself!

For new timers, you aren’t going to get everything right the first time. You are experiencing. So don’t worry if you don’t get something right away or you get something and realize that you’re never going to use it because that’s going to happen lots depending on your child and their likes and dislikes.

Ask your family and friends that already have children what works for them and go from there. Don’t stress. This is the fun part!

Here are some websites you can do online registry for your baby shower:
https://babyregistry.babiesrus.com/home
http://www.amazon.com/gp/baby/homepage
https://www-secure.target.com/gift-registry/baby-registry
http://www.buybuybaby.com/store/page/BabyRegistry

The best things about pregnancy

Feeling baby move. How can this not be one of the best parts of pregnancy? It took me a while before I actually decided I was actually feeling the baby and not just having gas, but it was amazing. Pregnancy becomes a lot more real once you start feeling that life inside of you moving.

People are nicer. If you have been pregnant I’m sure you will have noticed that people are nicer to you when they see your bulging belly. People will hold doors for you, smile at you in passing, help you when you look like you are struggling.

Baby hiccups. I guess some people might not enjoy these, but I thought it was so cute when Baby Leo would get hiccups. I can always tell when he has the hiccups and wasn’t just moving because I can feel him move every ten seconds or so. It’s almost exact.

Ultrasounds. Obviously any chance you have to see your baby you probably want to take. We got to see Baby Leo twice so far and each time was amazing. The best ultrasound is the gender ultrasound at 20 weeks because you get to see them for so long and you get to look at all of their tiny bones and see their beating heart and watch them move. Baby Leo was sucking his thumb and hiding his face, and I wasn’t even mad because I thought it was so cute. It’s really an amazing thing to be able to see a little baby moving around inside of you.

Knowing there is a life inside of you. Something changes when you find out you are pregnant. You aren’t only taking care of yourself anymore, you have a living thing inside of you that is completely, 100% dependent on you. It can be kind of scary but it’s also incredible. It’s sort of hard to put into words, but anyone who has been pregnant knows what I am talking about.

No period. Duh this is one of the best things because nobody likes having that time of the month.

Buying things for your baby. It’s really fun to buy a tiny outfit and think to yourself “our child will wear this!” or to buy a little blanket and think about how your baby will carry it around with him all the time. Pretty much anything when you get to think about how your baby will touch or use something is exciting.

Pregnancy is the ultimate excuse. For anything. If you feel tired, blame it on pregnancy. If you feel like eating a whole pizza, blame it on pregnancy. If you feel sick looking at a whole pizza, blame it on pregnancy. If you can’t get up from the couch, blame it on pregnancy. If you have gas, blame it on pregnancy. Seriously, you are making a person so you can sort of do whatever you want. I probably used this excuse too many times though. So just use it with caution, but don’t be afraid to use it. It’s the best.

Wearing stretchy pants. Yoga pants and leggings were always my bestfriends but now they have been my ultimate go to and I can feel comfortable at all times.

Avoiding the dreaded stretch marks

We all dread them…. and yet we are told there is nothing we can do about it. It’s genetic. You either get them or you don’t. Though I don’t completely disagree with this statement, I do think there are things you can do to prevent stretch marks. Maybe some people’s skin is miraculously more stretchy than yours but if you are genetically screwed to getting stretch marks there are still options for you.

Stretch marks are something we generally accept as a given during pregnancy. You’re either Elastic Girl or not. If you are lucky enough to have elastic skin you won’t get stretch marks right? Wrong. Of course there is something you can do about stretch marks… that is if you can possibly change the elasticity of your skin. So how can we do it?

I have taken a lot of this information from the e-book “Bump to Birth“. This is a perfect resource for mothers that are looking for more natural cures for all your pregnancy dreads…including stretch marks.

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1. Gelatin

1.Gelatin (like this or this) is a great way to prevent stretch marks. Collagen formation is essential in improving your skins elasticity. In order to increase your skins collagen formation you can eat gelatin to get more collagen through your diet. Another name for collagen…you guessed it Gelatin. Today our diets are severely lacking in gelatin. So how would one go about getting more gelatin in their diet.

2. HYDRATE

3.Coconut oil can easily be applied topically. It is best to apply right after a shower to keep the moisture in. I also loved a mixture of coconut oil and beeswax. The mixture helped to keep the coconut oil in place until it is absorbed into the skin.

4. Vitamin C
The body uses Vitamin C to form collagen and cartilage. Vitamin C is also highly effective in reducing free radical damage. Free radicals consume collagen and elastin. It is best to get Vitamin C from a natural food source instead of a supplement. Foods high in vitamin C include red and green bell peppers, guava, kale, parsley greens, turnips, and broccoli. You can also make your own vitamin C.

5. Oil Treatments
Beneficial oils include: Olive oil, Vitamin E oil, Essential oils, and castor oil.

6. Stretch Mark Serum
Here is a DIY Stretch mark cream from the healthy honeys.

7. Shea Butter or Cocoa Butter
Shea butter and cocoa butter are two of the best emollients out there. They are exceptional at keeping the skin moist and hydrated.

Thoughts on Mother’s Day

You’re pregnant with a tiny growing human inside of you that is soon going to make a grand entrance in the world and call you mommy. Motherhood starts the minute a woman finds out she’s pregnant. She is connected to the baby and is already planning her future for her son or daughter. Wherever she goes, running around, going to work, making a phone call- her little one is always with her.

So what I’m trying to say is if this is your first pregnancy, congrats! It’s almost your very first Mother’s Day whether your child is physically with you, or still in the womb. You have taken on the title of a mother the minute you got pregnant so don’t think that just because your baby isn’t here yet that you aren’t a mother. Your child is already appreciating everything you do for him or her. The healthy eating, daily naps, your body in which he/she rests and grows in- that is all YOU mama. I don’t know about you but I’m damn proud to be a mother. Every single day I feel the love growing for my son and I become the happiest woman in the world.

Mother’s Day is a modern celebration honouring one’s own mother, as well as motherhood, maternal bonds, and the influence of mothers in society.

There you go. A day completely honouring you for everything that you do for your child whether still in the womb or out in the world. Even though it often scares me to be a mother because of everything that comes with being a mother like the fact I have to take account for someone else’s life and make sure that they are the best human they can possibly be, scares me.

But for all you father’s out there who have a pregnant wife or girlfriend, she IS a mother so do something nice for her to show her you appreciate everything she is doing for your new little family.

Check out some gifts you can get for the pregnant mama!

http://mamaseeds.com/blog/advice/11-favorite-gifts-pregnant-mama/
http://www.skinnymom.com/2013/04/28/5-mothers-day-gifts-for-mommy-to-be/?_szp=369065

And if it’s just you out there mamas, do something for yourself. You deserve it too!

What they say means nothing

One of my biggest pet peeves thus far has been when people tell me how huge my belly looks or joke about if I’m having twins. Pregnant women are sometimes fretting over something a friend, family member, or even a complete stranger told them. There are usually two main things that inspire their worry: either “You look too small / big to be as far along as you are,” or the dreaded “You’ve definitely dropped.” So I’ve done some googling and many pregnant women as well as OB/GYN have discussed the major phenomenon of the term dropping.

My ultimate goal is this:

1.For people to stop making ANY comments about how a pregnant woman looks, and

2.For people to collectively alter how we think about the term “dropping.” (From a professional perspective)

Why? When you tell a pregnant woman she looks huge, about to pop, that she looks like she is carrying twins, or that she is way too small for how far along she is, it makes her feel uncertain all because of some subjective opinions of someone with no medical validation.

Look at women’s pregnancy photos and you will clearly see that every single woman carries a baby differently and their size differentiates. Just because a woman looks big, that doesn’t mean her baby is 25 pounds. It could be because of how many previous pregnancies she’s had which means her body has shifted and she will appear more pregnant at an earlier stage. Often times it’s just her body type or when her cute little baby is growing just right. No matter who says what about what the mother looks like, it will always cause her to worry. What if there is really something wrong? What if the baby is too small or not developing properly? I need to find out NOW if everything is okay!!! All of these questions tornado in her mind every day especially within the first and second trimester. If I were you, I’d limit your comments to “how are you feeling?” and “you look great!”

So about the term dropping, although I haven’t experienced this yet, gives off the same tornado of dread which gets proposed.

Dropping or “lightening” refers to a baby moving a bit lower in the pelvic canal. As the baby settles in, the new position can sometimes be visually appreciated with the top of the uterus (the fundus) looking like it’s farther from the breasts. It can also make women feel like they need to pee more and simultaneously feel like they can breathe more easily.

That’s it- that’s all!

Dropping carries no predictive value. It’s not a signal of labor or any positive or negative outcomes. Similar to a mucus plug, which can happen hours or weeks before delivery, dropping or lightening can also happen hours or weeks before delivery. Let me repeat, dropping carries no predictive value.

The logical reply is to thank this well-meaning friend for their magical thoughts and concerns, and go about your life without a second thought toward checking our zodiac signs sarcastic words of wisdom.

Just as the horoscope is not effective or predictive, neither is your mucus plug, how big your belly is, your cervical dilation, or if your baby dropped.

However, according to OB/GYN specialists, when you have the combination of strong contractions every 5 minutes for an hour, +/- breaking your bag of water, +/- a bunch of mucus comes out, +/- your baby feels lower in your pelvis, you definitely could be in labor or heading that direction soon.

So, let this be a public service announcement for the world: If someone tells you that you’ve dropped,or you look bigger/smaller than you should, pay them no mind. Just smile and say “Thanks, you’re right!” and don’t let it get to you.

If you are tempted to tell a pregnant woman that her anything negative or that could cause her to worry, please take a deep breath, count to 50, and come up with something else to say. “You look great, how’s it going?” is always the way to go!

You’re doing great mama’s and mama’s to be. And your pregnancy glow makes you sexier than ever!

Spring Sickness

It seems although I’ve been in pretty decent health my whole pregnancy, that the spring sickness was bound to get me.

I’m sure most of you know how horrible it is to be sick as is, but when you’re pregnant, times that by two and you will understand how I was feeling. Since it’s not healthy for the baby to take any medications, I had to do a bit of suffering and redirected myself to natural remedies.

Although I was only sick for a few days (thank the Lord), it was still difficult sleeping, eating and doing every day activities because my whole body had shut down and even trying to lay down with my achy body was the hardest.

So make it through this cold & flu season by taking extra precaution. Take your vitamins, rest lots, drink water and use hand sanitizer wherever you go!

Take it from the experts to find out what remedies are best for you during your pregnancy!

http://www.parenting.com/blogs/show-and-tell/colds-during-pregnancy
http://www.babycenter.com/0_flu-during-pregnancy_10313151.bc
http://www.healthline.com/health/cold-flu/treating-during-pregnancy#Overview1

The Name Game

Mom likes these names and dad likes those names and grandma & grandpa don’t like either of those names so HOW DO YOU CHOOSE WHAT TO NAME YOUR CHILD!? This is the next question myself and our son’s father are currently in disagreement about.

Of course dad wants to name his son something powerful and mighty like the Hulk or the red power ranger but realistically, moms, you know that’s not going to happen. Mothers want their son to have a meaningful name, something that doesn’t sound like it’s out of a comic book. So how do you meet in the middle?

Over the last 5 months of not knowing what our child was, we had ultimately thought it was going to be a girl so we had about 5 or 6 potential girls names and only one boy name. Ironic, right? But now that we found out that it’s a boy, we are in search of the perfect name for our precious little boy.

I’ve heard lots of people say, “just wait until you see him and then you will know exactly what you want to call him.” That’s the blow it off method, which I’m not in total agreement nor total denial about either. What if I still don’t know when he arrives? Then what?

Another thing come up with is to pick a few names and casually “spill the beans” to friends or family about potential names and see what they think-second opinions can sometimes be very helpful. Although if you are in my family, you know that we disagree on almost EVERYTHING so that may not work. In fact, today, I told my father that we had decided to name our son Leo and he HATED it, but then I talked to other people and they loved it. What do you think about Leo?

Something else I’ve tried doing is calling our baby by the name I think I want to go with and see if it sticks. If it just doesn’t seem right then it’s time to move on to the next name.

Write them down. Seeing is believing, so channel your old high school self and write down your fave name choices with baby’s last name to see how it looks. Do you love it? Is it too long? Not unique enough? Seeing it in black and white will transform the options from theoretical to more specific.

Think of names that your child won’t hate you for but names that you hold dear to you. Names that make you smile every time you say them or even go with family traditions.

Wish me luck on my baby naming journey and I also wish you, moms and dads, the best of luck because baby naming is flippin’ hard!

Watch this clip of Ellen, she knows your baby’s name. Click here.

Another Ellen video- God, I love her!

Other baby naming tips to consider!
http://www.parents.com/baby-names/find/
http://waitbutwhy.com/2013/12/how-to-name-baby.html

It’s A Boy!

I woke up yesterday morning at 6:30am exhausted but anxious because it was the day I finally got to find out if my baby was a boy or girl!

If you are currently pregnant or already have a child or two, you know the feeling. After months of calling my cute little human an “it”, he finally got the beginning of who he is and who he is becoming.

I walked into the ultrasound room in my heels and pencil skirt because I had an interview right after my appointment (talk about eventful day), sat down on the bed, and the nurse said “lets begin!”. She lathered my round belly with the coldest jelly and placed the ultrasound wand gently on my belly so I can finally see my baby’s face. Of course, he was already being stubborn and snuggled up right beside my placenta so I couldn’t get a clear view of his face at first so the nurse looked at other things. The heart beat, his brain, his little toes, then finally I got a little wave from him. He turned his precious face and looked right into the ultrasound so that mommy and daddy could see and STUCK HIS TONGUE OUT! Unbelievable. My little turkey definitely has a personality already and I fell immediately in love. The nurse then turned on the 3D sonogram and the picture was clear as day. I saw his features (which were mostly his fathers) and of course I heard his little heart beating at 142. The nurse had waited until the last few minutes to tell us it was a boy but the whole time we were looking at him, my motherly instincts could tell.

“You are having a son!” the nurse finished.

Tears filled my eyes and my heart filled with joy. People had asked me what I preferred and I had always stressed that I wanted a girl but the minute I saw his face and found out he was a boy, nothing else had mattered. I am having a son.

Even though I’m a young mother, my son is a blessing and I wouldn’t trade him for the world and I haven’t even met him yet. If you are a young mother, or even a mother that doesn’t feel ready, you will be great. It is a woman’s instinct to love the crap out of her child no matter what age she is or where she’s at in her life. Right from day 1, we have such great love for everything that we do and everyone we come in contact with. We are caregivers and protectors. Strive to be the best person you can be and your son or daughter will follow. They won’t care how you look, or what kind of job you have- they will forever love you as long as you love them.

Check out some of these links to find out more about what it’s like being a young mom. I have loved every single thing that these blogs had to say and although my son hasn’t arrived yet, I can agree with almost everything!

http://mom.me/blog/14768-7-hidden-perks-being-young-mom/
http://www.disneybaby.com/uncategorized/10-reasons-i-love-being-a-young-mom/
http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a6541/things-i-learned-as-a-young-mom/
http://thoughtcatalog.com/cristina-oliveras/2014/08/376210/

Now that I have 18 weeks give or take until my son arrives, I will be busy planning and arguing with the father about whether our son will be a football player or a soccer player! Haha- wish me luck.

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Hi Mommies & Daddies!

So this tired mama just got back from a long yet relaxing Spring Break which will be my excuse for my blogging absence.

I just want to inform EVERYONE that after a long 21 weeks, tomorrow is the day that I find out the sex of my baby! Patience is one thing that I have definitely begun to learn throughout the course of my pregnancy. These 4 weeks between appointments are dreadful because I always like to know how my little one is progressing in my growing womb.

I have learned that patience is the key to anything in life really. We are always so anxious for what happens next that we must learn to slow down and take life day by day.

I couldn’t imagine a day where I’m blissfully and peacefully relaxing on my wooden white porch in my country side mansion with my 3 children, a husband and a dog running through the tall grass. Of course that is just hypothetical but my life is always so on-the-go that I barely ever just relax and really just take in life. It could be such a wonderful thing if everyone was in relaxation mode without any bills or other problems to worry about.

When we are younger, we talk about what we want to be when we grow up like a doctor or a dinosaur in hopes that we will SOON become this older version of ourselves. When we are in elementary school, we constantly talk about high school, getting a boyfriend/girlfriend, or when our boobs are going to come in. Then, when we finally get to high school, we find jobs, talk about marriage, college and what we are going to do with our lives- and this is all before we turn 18 years old! All of those wants and excitements in life are what makes it go by so fast. We often forget what it’s like to slow down and take in who we are and how far we’ve become today. I believe that is the most important part. We don’t give ourselves enough credit or look at how much shit we’ve been through until you actually sit down for 10 minutes and just think.

MindBodyGreen has some inside tips on how to have more patience in life. Click here.

People always tell me that I need to slow down my life and enjoy the time I have being a 22-year-old but I often catch myself excited for what comes next. I will be a 22-year-old mom but I will also be a 22-year-old college graduate, 2 time captain for the varsity soccer team, employed, and soon to have my Master’s degree so I think I’m doing pretty good. People doubted me and still do but I have faith in myself and the abilities I have in life to be successful at whatever I set my mind to, and you should too!

Check back Wednesday for my Gender Reveal!!!!

Beat The Heat- Pregnancy Edition

Every morning before I roll out of bed, it’s become habit to inspect the weather channel and since I’m in the Midwest, who knows what it’s going to be like that day.

This morning however, I knew it was supposed to be extremely warm today for being mid March, so of course I was going to wear a maxi dress and flip flops because being pregnant in the heat is a STRUGGLE. For all you pregnant ladies, you know what I mean.

In December when I was at home, I was at the mall in just a sweater, leggings and my winter jacket, buying bras that fit, and ended up passing out mid-purchase because I was so warm. This was only when I was 9 weeks pregnant I knew that I never wanted that embarrassment again. So today, at 80 degrees (yes, that’s considered hot for us Canadians), when my best friend and I decided it would be a good day to walk around the zoo, I knew that I had to prepare. So far I’ve learned to BRING A WATER BOTTLE, WEAR SUNSCREEN (because your skin is more sensitive than before), EAT BEFORE LEAVING THE HOUSE AND WEAR AS LESS CLOTHES AS POSSIBLE!

I realize that I still have a long way to go and it’s only going to get hotter, so I’ve purchased lots of dresses that I’m able to wear to keep my growing heat box as cool as possible.

People always say that pregnancy during the summer makes it for one hot summer, but you just have to know yourself and what you need to survive (like any situation you’re put in).

I also suggest that you buy yourself a good pair of shoes because usually my athletic feet can handle a walk around the zoo in some flip flops, but by the end my best friend was telling me that my toes looked like “little sausages”. My feet were out of commission.

These blogs have become my best friends when it comes to finding out what works for them during summer pregnancy:

http://www.popsugar.com/moms/Summer-Pregnancy-Survival-Tips-3178027#photo-9094646
http://kirstenoliphant.com/2014/06/16/summer-pregnancy-hacks/

Prepare for the summer heat mama’s! It’s going to be a hot one.

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20 Weeks Down

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What my baby is up to at 20 weeks

I can’t believe I’m already half way there. I become more and more in love every day knowing that I’m weeks away from being a mom! My belly is getting bigger and fuller and my clothes don’t fit so much anymore (thank god it’s spring).

I go in a few days to find out the gender and that’s all I can think about lately!

I still crave dairy like no other.

The baby is usually awake and doing the most movements before I go to bed.

I’m so blessed!

Human Nature

It’s been a habit of mine to react to every single thing that has come my way, whether it was something that was said or done. Sort of like a defence mechanism- protecting myself from everything and anything.

I didn’t want to seem like too much or too little of something so I felt like I always had to prove something to people and even myself to ensure that I was still at the top. But I have quickly learned that’s not always the case.

“Every situation doesn’t always need a reaction” so I’ve been told.

That has been something that’s been constantly on my mind during the time I’ve been pregnant because I’ve been trying to transform my younger high school/college brain into things that I want my child to grow up learning. Your child is a mirror image of who you are and what you believe in and that is something that I firmly believe in. They look up to you, grow from you, and feed off your thoughts and energy.

Lately, I’ve been feeling like I’ve had to respond to everything that has come my way because that’s what comes with going to a small school and being pregnant. Everyone always has something to say.

The father of my child is still trying to find his way through this too, so we often argue about the little things that make up the whole process and of course, me having mommy-brain already, I feel ahead of that game.

It’s been a constant struggle between what I want to come out of this and what is the right thing to do during this time. Back to my quote about every situation doesn’t always need a reaction- every time there’s an argument, I have taken my thoughts and places them in a peaceful and calmer place, realizing that eventually, everything will work itself out to what it’s supposed to be.

Taking the time to clear your thoughts and frustrations is something that as a mom, you are going to have to learn to do. Like I said, I’ve come to realize that no matter how good of a person you are or what you’ve been through, people will always judge you and have something to say to or about you so take your life into your own hands and save the energy from a reaction. Your kids are going to love you because you are their protector and you are going to love them because they are a blessing and that’s all that’s going to matter.

Take a walk.
Write.
Breath.
Do stretches.
Take a nap.

Tell me things that you do to redirect your thoughts!

Happy Spring break, mommies & daddies.

One Tired Mama

I’m not sure if it’s the new body pillow I got or if it’s just the fact that I’m a human grower but MAN, I am so exhausted lately. When I was in kindergarden, I definitely took advantage of those afternoon naps I said I’d never take.

Fatigue or tiredness is a common symptom during pregnancy. Some women may feel exhausted throughout their pregnancy, while some may hardly feel tired at all. Although experience with fatigue tends to vary, most women will at least feel more tired than usual during their pregnancy.

Pregnancy is sort of like climbing a mountain or running a marathon, without the training, while carrying a backpack that has a few extra snacks in it every day — in other words, it’s hard work! During the first trimester of your baby growing, a huge amount of energy goes into building a life-support system for your baby – which is why you might be feeling extra pooped around week 9 or 10 (or if you’re like me, even more exhausted at week 20). Your body’s metabolism has increased drastically while your blood sugar and blood pressure tend to be lower. Also to blame: All that mood upheaval. Riding the emotional roller coaster of pregnancy can be exhausting. It’s no wonder you’re pooped!

There are some things that you can do to kick the pregnancy fatigue but if you’re like me, a few hours of some prime body pillow snuggles are the perfect solution. If you really want some expert advice on kicking the pregnancy fatigue and not expert napping advice (from myself), check out some of these websites to see if there is anything you can do that works for you!

http://www.babycenter.com/0_fatigue-during-pregnancy_2911.bc
http://americanpregnancy.org/your-pregnancy/fatigue-during-pregnancy/

But they say that now is the time, especially while you’re pregnant to get caught up on all the sleep you need because once that cute bundle of pooping joy comes, you won’t get the 10 hour body pillow sleeps followed by the 3 hour day time naps anymore. You will be on 24 hour baby duty, unless you have a special child that enjoys sleeping all the time (pray for me). So don’t feel guilty when you are slumbered away because you can’t keep your eyes open during the day. Your body is going through tremendous changes and you could use the extra few hours to let your temple rest.

It’s 8pm here and I think I’m going to bed. Never in a million years would I ever thought I’d be saying that but I am- so goodnight! And you too mommies and daddies. Get those good sleeps in while you still can.

Thanking Your Creators

I know a lot of people would say that they wouldn’t be where they are today if it wasn’t for their parents and I know that I’m one of those people.

My parents, although can sometimes be a pain in my ass, will always want the best for me and will forever have my back. They work hard every single day so that I can get a college degree and live as less worrisome as I have to- and that’s something to be thankful for. They motivate me to do my absolute best and to pursue my dreams whenever I’m feeling helpless, and what better feeling is to have someone that is always there for you no matter how many times you mess up?

Parents are often not recognized because they have been there our whole lives and what they do for us has become immune. We take advantage of the extra hour they woke up in the morning to make our lunches and to get us up for school, or when they drove us tirelessly to our practices or rehearsals, making sure that we were usually almost always on time. They were the ones that taught us how to read and to write. They moulded us into who we have become today.

Becoming a mother is a scary yet exciting thought for me because now it’s my turn to go through the same process that my mother went through and provide the same love and support for my child as she did for me. I already dream about the success and joy my child will have in his/her life and I can’t believe that I will be the crazy soccer mom at all my child’s games.

It seems so surreal how quickly we grow up once we know we have to take care of another life. It’s like an automatic switch, especially for moms, that turns on in our heads and even though the baby hasn’t even arrived yet, you know what you have to do (for the most part).

So take the time and thank your parents for everything that they have done and still do for you in your lives. They too often need the courage and motivation to keep going because if you were my parents, you had a hell of a time raising a child like myself- the free spirited, outgoing, social butterfly that was involved in every single sport you can think of plus hours of dance classes every single week. We can’t forget that when we are busy growing up, we often forget that they are growing old.

And to the mommies and daddies out there, keep going. Your children will thank you for all the pushing and pulling you put them through to guide them in becoming the best that they can be.

Sunday Snack-Day

I can’t imagine life without delicious snacks to keep my pregnant belly full and content.

Grocery day is always a wonderful day because you get to splurge on all your favourite foods without feeling guilt and shame, which you shouldn’t feel that way anyways because food is AWESOME. Especially when you’re pregnant, snacking is one of the biggest things you need to do for your health and the baby’s.

Everyone always says how you’re supposed to “eat for two now” but I detest that theory. After doing some research, I came across a dietician named Sasha Watkins that said, ” For the first six months of your pregnancy (first and second trimesters), you won’t need to have more calories than you did before you became pregnant. That’s about 2,000 calories a day. However, during the last three months of your pregnancy (third trimester), you will need an extra 200 calories a day, making a total of about 2,200 calories a day.” Can you believe it? You only need 200 more calories a day than you did before you were pregnant or even during the first 6 months!

So mama’s, throw out that idea that you need to devour your whole kitchen in one sitting because only your brain thinks you need that much food, believe me. I can defend that theory because I am currently 5 months pregnant and I don’t eat any more than I did before I got pregnant. Of course, my sweet tooth has become a little bit stronger and I do crave all the good stuff like ice cream, chocolate and candy but I have learned to balance out my cravings and I have even replaced those cravings with delicious snacks that do the same trick. (Cough, cough, strawberries and whipped cream)

Take a look at this list which provides you with 21 different snack ideas that are healthy & delicious!

Snack on, mama’s!

Afternoon Delight

Good Afternoon from my freshly cleansed nest in which I have been snuggled up in all day.

I know this sounds daunting but cleaning really does help clear the mommy brain. Vacuuming, scrubbing the windowsill and washing your week-old dirty laundry has never sounded so good. After a 2 hour walk outside in this perfect spring weather, I felt as if I wasn’t done with my sleepy Saturday just yet. Today, I discovered something very true about myself- I suffer from seasonal affective disorder.

Seasonal affective disorder (SAD) is a type of depression that’s related to changes in seasons — SAD begins and ends at about the same times every year. If you’re like most people with SAD, your symptoms start in the fall and continue into the winter months, sapping your energy and making you feel moody. Less often, SAD causes depression in the spring or early summer.

So yes, it may sound silly to some, but to others it can be very real.

I stepped outside in shorts and a long sleeve shirt, took a deep breath, and felt immediate relief. Summer is just around the corner and since I haven’t been able to tan in a tanning bed because of the pregnancy, my glowing white skin is definitely ready for the summer heat.

After moping around for a few days prior to the weather change, I knew that I needed to get out of this funk eventually. This afternoon, I felt completely rejuvenated after cleaning, walking and of course, a 2 hour nap. Now, time to eat a delicious dinner and enjoy my Saturday night.

If you think that you have seasonal affective disorder, take the necessary steps to getting out of your winter blues.

The Secret

If you haven’t already seen this movie, you should consider it. Although I don’t quite agree with everything that is said, you might find useful information that you can apply to your everyday life.

Mommy world is a totally different world than what you are currently reside in. Finding ways to expand your views and broaden your “mommy-brain”, as I’ve heard some call it, is to get perspective on different parts of your lives that you may not have known existed.

Interviews with leading authors, philosophers, scientists, with an in-depth discussion of the Law of Attraction. The audience is shown how they can learn and use ‘The Secret’ in their everyday lives.

Watch the video below for The Secret Law of Attraction and comment your thoughts. I’d love to hear!

Happy watching!

Shoot For Goal

“You’re still playing soccer at 19 weeks? You’re crazy.”

You have no idea how many times a day I hear that sentence. But yes, I am still playing soccer at 19 weeks pregnant and I feel great, minus my current back injury which COULD HAVE HAPPENED TO ANYONE. Obviously I’ve been taking precaution and not doing contact anymore, but being pregnant hasn’t stopped me from doing what I love. I’m happy with my body and my life, why would I want to give that up? Hell, my child is already learning the basics by fast-feet and kicking drills (inside the womb of course).

Let me tell you something. If you were active before you got pregnant, you sure as hell can be active while you are pregnant. KNOW YOUR LIMITS.

I had an opportunity to go to a combine in Dallas, Texas on January 4th but that goal has been currently put on the back burner. I truly believe in the statement “everything happens for a reason”, so I know that God had another plan in mind (even though the guy knows how much soccer means to me). That was the first thing I thought about when I found out I was pregnant was damn, I can’t go to that combine. So, incase you’re wondering, I’m still trying to get to that level and I know it’s achievable. Anything is. If Britney Spears can get through 2007, you my friend, can get through anything.

Goals are something that everyone should have whether you are pregnant or not. My main belief is the goal-setting process so that you have to have motivation to get your ass out of bed everyday and go for what you really want. Goal setting is difficult when you aren’t sure where to start so click here for Personal Goal setting by Mind Tools to find out more.

For myself, I have a journal that I write in once in awhile whenever I get an epiphany that way I can always go back whenever I’m feeling a little off course and look at the bigger picture. For example, my little nugget that is due in July. Yeah, that wasn’t in the playbook, but that doesn’t mean I can’t still become a professional soccer player, or get my masters, or be a Sports Psychologist for the Chicago Bears. Anything is achievable if you work hard enough and there are many people to prove that theory.

So get out of bed, have a cup of joe, and get to work!

An International Affair

I woke up this morning with a dark, heavy cloud cluttering my 21-year-old brain.

‘I never thought my life would become this complex so damn quickly’ I said to myself, holding back tears.

I always knew that once I graduated, my life would ultimately change enough as it is. Now, adding a baby into the mix has become the ultimate challenge. Being Canadian and potentially having a baby in America while currently still in school, applying for my work visa with tight stipulations to follow, not being able to find a job after graduation, relationship status on edge and still college-broke, my brain has been on overload with how I’m going to manage all of this and still keep my sanity.

The way that I was built. My mind operates at 1 million miles per hour and everything has to be set in place, so you can only imagine how I’m handling all of this stress. Yeah, not well. My heart aches because once again in my life I feel lost. I feel lonely in a crowded place, like no one understands me. Maybe it’s the pregnancy PMS or maybe it’s just me, forcing things when I should just learn to ease up and “go with the flow”. But how? I’m constantly thinking about the sake of my child and the what ifs. What if I fail? What if I never really get it together? Then what? People keep telling me that everything is going to pan out how it’s supposed to, and I do believe them and keeping the faith is what I’m holding onto but right now, it’s just hard.

I’m sure I’m not the only one that feels this way, pregnant or not, so if you’re going through the “lost” feeling, you are definitely not alone.

The best advice I’ve gotten so far is from my Aunt, a wise woman with many words. She said to me, “think of all your problems like a job. It’s okay to think about them and try to figure them out for a few hours out of your day, but once you come home, you’re off the clock. Turn off the problem-mode and switch into relaxation. Your brain needs to rest and recover for another long day of thinking and planning.” And you know what, she’s right. My mind is constantly on the go that when I finally get to lay my head down, it’s still going, and sleep becomes difficult and the sadness overwhelms my mind and eventually my body starts to feel the stress and the sadness. This feeling leaves you with emptiness; like there’s a giant black hole in your heart.

But I can promise you one thing, “you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”-Christopher Robin

For more advice and support, click here to take a professionals approach on stress management.

Bumpdate

I’m 19 weeks and I’m so in love.

My little one is moving around mostly in the mornings which is probably a good thing since I’d never get out of bed if it didn’t make me want to pee all the time. I can’t believe in one more week I will be finding out if I’m having a prince or princess! My heart is full.

Thanks to everyone who is keeping updated on my blog. If you have any requests for posts, send me a message and I’d be glad to write about questions or anything YOU, my amazing readers, want to learn about!

Stay happy & healthy, friends!

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Mommy Media

If you’re anything like me, you want to track your pregnancy week-by-week, plan and organize every day to prepare, and once the baby comes, *Poof!*, you’re an expert.

Almost everyone in today’s society has a smart phone so why not put it to use during your pregnancy and even when your newborn arrives?

Smart phones have become the future and with one single app (I’m Expecting), I can track my pregnancy simply by entering my due date and it gives me weekly updates on how my little one is progressing and I’m also able to communicate with other mommies that are going through some of the same bump in the road, no pun intended!

So if you want to be tech-savy, click here to find out what other apps you can download to view, plan and explore your pregnancy.

Preparing Your Fur-Baby For Your Human Baby

I love my fur-babies. They are loyal companions that currently have all your love and snuggles so preparing them for a baby is something that is crucial.

Believe it or not (and I am actually currently experiencing this), my smart puppy is already very protecting over her new little brother or sister. She lays on my stomach and if someone even tries to touch me, she pushes them away. Weird, huh? How can a dog know that you have a baby growing? Dog’s have senses that are able to tell something is going on in there that wasn’t there before.

If there are obedience issues, those need to be fixed especially before the baby comes. (Sit & stay)

Some dogs have “cute little quirks” that an owner assumes are harmless, until a baby is in the picture. One of them is jumping up on people as a way to greet them. This is not a good trait to encourage. If a new parent is holding the baby, a dog may try to jump up to see the wee one as well, which may lead to harming the baby. Once a baby starts wobbling around, a jumping dog will get excited and knock over the little one.

Allow the dog to sniff what will be used on the baby to get used to the new scents. If the dog will be allowed in the baby’s room, set up a sleeping area for them and toss treats into their bed when they aren’t looking. This will bring about positive associations with the new bed and all the other changes happening.

All of these things will ensure your fur-baby is well adjusted and willing to co-operate when your new addition arrives. Happy Training Mommies!

Here are some other tips that I found helpful:

http://www.babycenter.com/preparing-pets-for-babies

Prego Fashion 101

I’ve been thinking about my appearance more and more as my belly grows week by week. How the hell am I going to look cute when half my clothes don’t fit anymore? Easy peasy, improvise!

Pregnancy is an amazing look on a woman. This is what we were made for, ladies! So don’t get down in the dumps when your favourite pair of jeans don’t fit anymore. Believe it or not, there are a lot of maternity clothes out there that don’t make you look like a frump.

My solution: yoga pants & leggings. Yes, I said it. It is completely acceptable (and fashionable) to wear yoga pants and leggings every single day of your pregnancy if you wish. There are several shirts that go with a simple pair of black pants and hey, at least your behind is still on point. But I also have a few pairs of maternity skinny jeans that are actually extremely comfortable and if I could, I’d wear them all the time, pregnant or not.

So find simplicity in your fashion while you’re pregnant. Be comfy and glorious, mamas! Pregnancy Fashion 101

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Relationship Tips During Pregnancy

Source: What to Expect When You’re Expecting

What is the most important relationship you will have in your new life as a future parent? Plot twist…It’s not the one you’ll have with the new little life you will be bringing home give or take 30 weeks from now. It’s the one you will be sharing with your spouse or significant other. Because whether you want it to happen or not, fetuses will grow up into babies, who will blossom into children then grow up and flee the nest. But your spouse or significant other is someone who you will grow old with so that means it’s going to be extra important to keep the love alive and maintain a strong, healthy relationship during your pregnancy.

1.Keep the romance alive: Schedule weekly date nights!
2.Be spontaneous: Compliment each other, bring breakfast in bed, leave love notes
3.Mix baby business with relationship pleasure: After your ultrasound appointment, go to lunch or browse the baby store.
4.Talk. Talk. Talk. Communication is key and not just about things that need to be done but ask him/her about their day.
5.Get away- while you still can: Plan a romantic trip even if it’s not to a private island or a tropical beach.

Just For Kicks

It’s not just an ordinary Saturday for me.

I woke up to my tiny 18 week baby kicking the crap out of the womb in which it develops. I never thought that pain could bring me so much joy. It doesn’t really become real until you start to actually feel it move around and get to know its own senses.

At 18 weeks, the baby is the size of a bell pepper (HEALTHY FOR PREGNANT MOMMIES) and measures 5-5.8 inches and weighs about 5.3 ounces.
At these weeks, my baby’s eyes are beginning to face forward and the retinas are able to detect light.

(Fun fact: if you put a bright light up to your tummy, the baby may shy away from it and you might be able to feel its movement.)

Only 3 more weeks until I find out the sex and until I’m over half way through my pregnancy! I’m so anxious to be a mommy!

Quench Your Cravings

I have a confession. I, am a smoothie addict.

Even pre-pregnancy I have always enjoyed a nice cold smoothie especially after a workout or in the morning for breakfast. There are so many different flavors and recipes that are quick and easy especially if you are an on-the-go type gal. This week, I found a delicious smoothie that you should try!

I found this recipe on fittamamma.com and she has several others you can choose from if your pregnancy taste buds aren’t fitting to mine (which, lets face it, all pregnant women have the weirdest cravings).
Now GO fit mama, enjoy!

Mint & Melon Smoothie:
Melons are a great source of prenatal vitamins including Vitamin A, Vitamin B and Vitamin B6 – and also of niacin and potassium. These nutrients are important for the development of your baby’s vision, brain, nervous and immune systems, whilst potassium regulates water balance in the blood and body tissues during pregnancy. Choose honeydew or cantaloupe melon for this recipe.

Ingredients:
Half a melon cut into chunks
6-7cm of cucumber cut into chunks
Generous sprig of fresh mint (adjust to taste)
1 cup of apple juice
Juice of half a lime

Method:
Whizz all the ingredients together until smooth. Taste and add more mint as necessary.
Serve over crushed ice with a sprig of mint.

Maternity Must-Haves

As pregnancy begins to take a toll on your body week after week, there are many things that can help your body cope with the whole pregnancy ordeal.

I have come up with a list, with the help of outside sources from other pregnant mommies, of all the pregnancy must-haves! Since I’m still in college, I have found that these coping mechanisms aren’t high up on the price scale so that is an added bonus if you aren’t living the college struggle.

1) BODY PILLOW- While the growing baby inside you is sleeping soundly, you on the other hand, may not be. It’s difficult to find a comfortable sleeping position with your belly so having a body pillow is definitely worth the extra dollar. Even though these are one of the more expensive items on this list ($40-$60 at Walmart), you can get a body wedge ($20) that is just as good!

2) PRENATAL VITAMINS- If you are still in the morning sickness, can’t eat, can’t sleep phase, taking your prenatal vitamins are crucial so that the baby gets the supplements he/she needs for growth. Even if you aren’t in that phase anymore, taking your prenatal vitamins should still be apart of your daily routine.

3) BELLY BAND- While your belly starts to grow, it can put a big strain on your back which will most likely suck. The belly band is small but provides a huge support and you can wear it under your clothes so that it goes unnoticed!

4) STRETCH MARK LOTION- Even before your belly starts to grow, lather on the lotion to your belly and thighs. This will help prevent stretch marks as well as heal any that do come in during the pregnancy. Your skin is going to stretch no matter what but it’s your job to make sure that stretch marks don’t ruin your pre-baby body. I use “Mama Bee” by Burts Bees and it works like a charm!

5) PROPER SHOES- Make sure you have a decent pair of running shoes or shoes that you find give you the most comfort because your feet and ankles are going to be carrying a lot of weight after a few months and your back is going to thank you for that. Running shoes are a cute fashion style so don’t think that just because you’re pregnant, you can’t look good!

Bumpdate

17 weeks 5 days

Craving milk and chocolate
Starting into maternity pants
Difficulties sleeping in certain positions
Feeling fluttering and little movements!
More energy then the first few months

Finding out the gender on March 23rd!

Almost half way there!

Therapeutic Thursday; Writing Through Pregnancy

Stressed? Tired? Moody? With a pinch of happiness and bliss? No one will ever know.

There are many ways, especially during pregnancy, that you need to whined down and de-clutter your pre-baby brain and what better way to do so than to write.

There have been numerous studies that have shown the true therapeutic effects of writing frequently.

So what, exactly, is it about putting pen to paper that helps us feel better and cope more efficiently with the problems in our lives? Experts insist that expressing ourselves through writing, our feelings makes our negative emotions less intense and much more manageable.

Alright, enough with the science crap. What these studies show is that writing a little every day is as essential as squeezing in a workout, eating healthy, or getting a solid night’s sleep. Writing helps kick your brain into gear, so that instead of getting caught up in your emotions you are able to think through them and approach them with a more practical mindset.

So take a breather mommy bear! Sit down on your comfiest couch and start writing!